A few annoying questions !!

[Nighthawk]

Ok so here is my dilema... I USED to have a California CDL-A and drove locally in Caliy but for the last company it was only about 4 or 5 months and the time before that was for like 1 week about 6 years earlier and about 2 years before that for the other two companies one was about 7 months (very shady Local company when I was there) and the other was about 1 month for a 2 truck outfit (no longer in business) N E Ways when the wife and I relocated to her home town of Salem OR we were going hunting with the folks so needed to get OR DL ($300 more for hunting lic and tags with Cali DL) and I was an IDIOT since I was told it was $200 to maintain a Class A and didn't have the money for it at the time signed that I acknowledge of the downgrade... 2 years later I go to get a copy of my OR printout for a towing company and while in line readin the commercial handbook for giggles discovered "If already have a current and valid Class A CDL from another state the fees are waived to transfer to OR"ullhair:ullhair:ullhair:ullhair:

Ok with that out of my system... I am working on finding A) getting my permit to start with and finding someone that will let my practice and test in a truck B) finding a local company that will work with me for "training" C) apply for a company that is hiring "students" or Complete newbies.. unfortunatley Swift is about the onlyone that has any interest in the Oregon area that I have come across

Now here is the annoying questions part...

1) Anyone willing to help me out with option A or B
2) Any recomendations for companies to look into.
3) This one is the trickiest.... How can I convince my wife that it won't be that bad if I am gone for 2-3 weeks at a time.... Hell when we first met besides chatting online we only saw eachother 1 weekend a month..... Oh and here is the trickier part... her EX-Bro-in-law is an OTR driver and ended up having an affair (see my challenge to convince her)

Any Tips or Pointers would be greatly appreciated...

 

[Cerberus]

Sounds like you have enough issues about driving and you haven't even driven yet. Are you sure you want to add to that plate of problems and issues by accutally going over the road. Doesn't seem like that is the right option for you right now. If she has issues akready with you driving a truck and your sitting there beside her talking about it, then what do you honestly think it will be like when you do go and your not there. And far be it if she calls and you don't answer because either your asleep or just not hearing the phone. The accusations alone are aggrevating.


Re-think your options man.

 

[Nighthawk]

Yeah I know thats why I am primarily concentrating on trying to find something local or at least weekly type thing initially... She was okay with it when we lived in Cali and it was local with a times gone a couple of nights type thing. The worst part is I have been rethinking all of my options and with us pulling in less than 2K/month currently and not even fast food is hireing here I am basically reaching bag into my assorted bag of previous work experiences and I am down to the bottom of that perverbial bag of tricks (just happens to be my favorite thing to do though LOL)

Thanks for the advice of rethinking my options

To think I went from around 50K a year in Cali being the only income while paying 500/month for rent for a house on a 1/4 acre (g-ma's house) to up here where combined last year we almost hit 30K....... ullhair: ullhair:

 

[snowflake]

you REALLY think you're gonna get home every 2-3 weeks? there are big differences between the glittering details and the reality.....Cerb has a good point too....just because she may hear ringing on her end does NOT mean the phone EVER rings on your end...BTDT......this way of life is NOT for every couple..I grew up in this enviroment handeled it better than most but had my moments.....but its my life and I am OTR as well...most of the time......her obligations seem to lean one direction and your dreams go another......talk about it with her......

 

[Nighthawk]

you REALLY think you're gonna get home every 2-3 weeks? there are big differences between the glittering details and the reality.....Cerb has a good point too....just because she may hear ringing on her end does NOT mean the phone EVER rings on your end...BTDT......this way of life is NOT for every couple..I grew up in this enviroment handeled it better than most but had my moments.....but its my life and I am OTR as well...most of the time......her obligations seem to lean one direction and your dreams go another......talk about it with her......

I have been trying to talk to her about it but its kinda like talkin to a brick wall now and then even when I point out that OTR would be temp till can get miles under the belt again and find local or get rid of the pets and convice her to jump in and drive as well... on the other hand my dad is wanting to learn to drive and run team with me hahaha I think NOT on that one being a state away from him is still to close (why did they have to invent phones again)

I have actually also been using the line of finding a company that does do 1-2 weeks out but that when I first start for them it will "probably" be 2-3.. I know the probably part is an out and out lie BUT..... oh well...its one of those things either she trusts me or she don't she should be happy that I am willing to trust her while I am gone...

 

[snowflake]

I have been trying to talk to her about it but its kinda like talkin to a brick wall now and then even when I point out that OTR would be temp till can get miles under the belt again and find local or get rid of the pets and convice her to jump in and drive as well... on the other hand my dad is wanting to learn to drive and run team with me hahaha I think NOT on that one being a state away from him is still to close (why did they have to invent phones again)

I have actually also been using the line of finding a company that does do 1-2 weeks out but that when I first start for them it will "probably" be 2-3.. I know the probably part is an out and out lie BUT..... oh well...its one of those things either she trusts me or she don't she should be happy that I am willing to trust her while I am gone...

Its not so much the lack of trust but its the fact that things go wrong...things break....little stuff that you would have been there to take care of......I remember one time the plumbing under the kitchen sink "gave up the ghost" min before he pulled out.....and we are O/O.....he knew it and he left! I was mad......I took everything out and fixed it myself.....its things like this that wear on the problem more than anything........and of course there is always the dear soul who tells her how bad she has it and its a shame.....

 

[Nighthawk]

Its not so much the lack of trust but its the fact that things go wrong...things break....little stuff that you would have been there to take care of......I remember one time the plumbing under the kitchen sink "gave up the ghost" min before he pulled out.....and we are O/O.....he knew it and he left! I was mad......I took everything out and fixed it myself.....its things like this that wear on the problem more than anything........and of course there is always the dear soul who tells her how bad she has it and its a shame.....

Ahh that is one spot where I am lucky when it comes to honey do's around the home currently I have to do them (I do the property maintenance for the apartments she manages LOL) But if I don't work for the company then its a work order to the main office away from being fixed LOL...
I do get what you are saying about little stuff that needs to be done around the home thing.. And Definatly hearing about the "how bad she has it" thing mainly from her sis and her parents curteosy of her sis's ex..

This is in part why I am here trying to find other ideas and options for gettin back into the seat

 

[snowflake]

yes you are understanding......I love the road.....sometimes I love being home by myself......and sometimes the money can get thin....so be realistic and get things understood and for heaven's sake listen to the things she is NOT saying......best to ya!

 

[Cerberus]

I have been reading all these posts and i am catching a few key words here (my parents are pyschologists), If you go OTR, you are in for a world of hurting. The money is no longer what it used to be, don't let a recruiter tell you how much money you'll make, 'cause you won't. At least nothing like it used to be. Remember the days of .40 -.43 cpm ? they are gone. How about the 1300$ - 1500$ a week bring home weekly ? Thats gone also. How about the drivers at truck stops telling tall tales? Well, thats still there and always will be. Now you just need bigger boots. The reason i brought up money is 'cause money is the number 1 reason for domestic arguements, seperations and divorce.

You really need to have a 100% approval rating from your wife before you even consider looking at anymore companies around. Get her involved in your search and at the looking at these companies. You got a company close by? Take with ya to check them out. Bottom line dude, get her approval and involved or your just packing your bags to shitville, POPULATION 1.

 

[Nighthawk]

yes you are understanding......I love the road.....sometimes I love being home by myself......and sometimes the money can get thin....so be realistic and get things understood and for heaven's sake listen to the things she is NOT saying......best to ya!

That is what my biggest flaw is... I LOVE being by myself LOL... I don't mind dealing with people now and then but as far as having to be around people on a regular basis that just ain't for me even in office jobs I would always find my own projects to work on alone and at home its kinda the same way visit with the wifey for a couple hours then off to work on the computer to look stuff up, do my online schooling (AA in accounting), or find ways to find customers for my little decal business LOL.... come to think of it that is why my first wife left LOL physically home but mentally off in my own little world...

Still trying to learn how to listen to things that are NOT being said.. tend to be too busy ducking the visual aids LOL haha

 

[Nighthawk]

I have been reading all these posts and i am catching a few key words here (my parents are pyschologists), If you go OTR, you are in for a world of hurting. The money is no longer what it used to be, don't let a recruiter tell you how much money you'll make, 'cause you won't. At least nothing like it used to be. Remember the days of .40 -.43 cpm ? they are gone. How about the 1300$ - 1500$ a week bring home weekly ? Thats gone also. How about the drivers at truck stops telling tall tales? Well, thats still there and always will be. Now you just need bigger boots. The reason i brought up money is 'cause money is the number 1 reason for domestic arguements, seperations and divorce.

You really need to have a 100% approval rating from your wife before you even consider looking at anymore companies around. Get her involved in your search and at the looking at these companies. You got a company close by? Take with ya to check them out. Bottom line dude, get her approval and involved or your just packing your bags to shitville, POPULATION 1.

I know what you mean about not listening to the BS promises from the recruiters... Honestly I have spoken to very few of them as of yet beings I know they are just sales people trying to sell you on a job for their company... I also understand that the money in driving is not what it used to be or is what the CO websites, schools or recruiters make it sound like it is. Everyone that I have read does state the infamous word "POTENTIAL" before the earnings LOL Kind of like the homebased business commercials with the comment of results are not typical haha.. The potential for steady income of 2K/MONTH and med benifits is all I really have as a goal to achieve as pay so its not like I am looking to start driving and get rich I'll be happy to at least start to break even.

The finance issues is what really start bickering tween the wife and I that and scrounging to pay for her to get a tooth pulled a couple of weeks ago is what got me started thinking about driving again. I do all of our finances and even when I have sat down with her and showed her our income to debt she'll still go on a tyrant when I tell her we don't have the $$ to spend on anything. So yeah I may be looking at a trip to shitville but at least if that is the case there won't be any financial bickering

.... Sorry I keep going on my little delima rants but gots ta vent once in a while and by the re-reading things looks like I haven't vented enough lately ....

 

[Cerberus]

Its all good, everybody needs to vent, except me of course. LOL. Sounds like she doesn't listen to you and you can't read between the lines when you two talk about this. All this conversation should be between you and her. You 2 have some serious talking to take care of.


Or you can go option # 2. Tell her to shut the phuck up. Your the man of the house, you wear the jeans, pay the bills, put a roof over her head, so your gonna do what you want to do and she'll shut up and like it. Then send her surprised look on her face ass into the kitchen to get you a beer. Sometimes you half to unhook that ball and chain and put her in her place.


I would go with option 1.

 

[snowflake]

Its all good, everybody needs to vent, except me of course. LOL. Sounds like she doesn't listen to you and you can't read between the lines when you two talk about this. All this conversation should be between you and her. You 2 have some serious talking to take care of.


Or you can go option # 2. Tell her to shut the phuck up. Your the man of the house, you wear the jeans, pay the bills, put a roof over her head, so your gonna do what you want to do and she'll shut up and like it. Then send her surprised look on her face ass into the kitchen to get you a beer. Sometimes you half to unhook that ball and chain and put her in her place.


I would go with option 1.

lol yea but there is SOME validity to option 2 but don't send her for the beer...we can get more creative than that to showing her you have her best interest here and taking charge is a part of it...face it somebody HAS to be the boss.....and the thing that made me the maddest was the fact that I was in charge! Head of the house is one thing but alowing the members to do the jobs in the house they are best talented for is a plus.....thereagain
there is always option 1 lol

 

[Nighthawk]

Thanks for letting me vent and I am sure ya even have to vent now and then Cerberus LOL I kinda like Option #2 cept there are a couple of small problems with it... #1 I keep a 9mm in the house #2 she knows how to use it LOL !!!!!!

I agree with option #1 though and am gonna see if I can get her to actually have a chit chat with me bout it all Hmmmm maybe I'll pick up some beer first and combine #1 and #2 along with hiding all of her pairs of jeans since she does wear pants as much as I do LOL haha

 

[snowflake]

Thanks for letting me vent and I am sure ya even have to vent now and then Cerberus LOL I kinda like Option #2 cept there are a couple of small problems with it... #1 I keep a 9mm in the house #2 she knows how to use it LOL !!!!!!

I agree with option #1 though and am gonna see if I can get her to actually have a chit chat with me bout it all Hmmmm maybe I'll pick up some beer first and combine #1 and #2 along with hiding all of her pairs of jeans since she does wear pants as much as I do LOL haha

lol well I still wish ya the best and talkin will go a long way...oh even if she wears jeans don't mean she can slip on a pair of black heels now and then .....

 

[Cerberus]

lol well I still wish ya the best and talkin will go a long way...oh even if she wears jeans don't mean she can slip on a pair of black heels now and then .....

I like the way you think. 9 inch pumps and a mini and she is ready for a little sumptin sumptin...........

 

[Cerberus]

Thanks for letting me vent and I am sure ya even have to vent now and then Cerberus LOL I kinda like Option #2 cept there are a couple of small problems with it... #1 I keep a 9mm in the house #2 she knows how to use it LOL !!!!!!

I agree with option #1 though and am gonna see if I can get her to actually have a chit chat with me bout it all Hmmmm maybe I'll pick up some beer first and combine #1 and #2 along with hiding all of her pairs of jeans since she does wear pants as much as I do LOL haha

Dude it almost sounds like its too late too grab some manhood here for you. There is one last move to save face. Think caveman. Man up, grab her off the couch, carry her thru the room, into the phuck room, throw her on the bed, ravish her and treat her like the little bed whore she is and tell her what the deal is. you are man. make her hear you roar. of that doesnt work run like hell cause she is gonna be pissed. lol.

 

[Nighthawk]

Dude it almost sounds like its too late too grab some manhood here for you. There is one last move to save face. Think caveman. Man up, grab her off the couch, carry her thru the room, into the phuck room, throw her on the bed, ravish her and treat her like the little bed whore she is and tell her what the deal is. you are man. make her hear you roar. of that doesnt work run like hell cause she is gonna be pissed. lol.

:joke: :joke: :joke: :joke: :joke: :joke: :joke: :joke: :joke: :joke:

If I did that I wouldn't be able to walk hahah LOL !!!!!! I could meet her 50/50 on that one she can carry me and then I can do the rest !!!! On the bright side I can out run her.... :joke: :joke:

 

[Cerberus]

Lesson 13.1 = always be able too out run your woman. Men talk too much shit too be slow.

 

[Nighthawk]

Lesson 13.1 = always be able too out run your woman. Men talk too much shit too be slow.

Nope that lesson is Marriage 101 !!!!!!


So on a logical non rambling note... roughly what would the average going monthly income be for one with 6mo verifiable experience from little over 2 years ago?? (keeping in mind live in North West)